Why Clients Keep Looping in Self-Sabotage

Most clients don’t come to coaching unaware of their patterns.
They know they procrastinate.
They know they pull away when things get close.
They know they sabotage momentum right before something shifts.

What they don’t understand – and what most coaching fails to explain -is why the pattern keeps looping even after awareness. Even after the action plans, the calendar blocks, the mindset work.

You are excited to get into your coaching session.You feel aligned with your purpose, grounded in your passion, ready to support real transformation. And then you get on the call and you are met with… “I don’t know.” Your mind pauses almost like the internet has frozen. What do you mean you do not know?What […]

The coaching industry loves to swing between extremes. One moment, being in a certification means you’re committed to growth, the next, it makes you a “certification hopper.” The truth is, both can be true. This piece explores the difference between expanding from your heart versus leading from your shadow, and why true embodiment matters more than another piece of paper. If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re doing enough, this will remind you what actually creates an embodied coach.

So much of the coaching industry tells us that success means bigger income months but what if it’s more than that? In this blog, I share my journey of redefining success as a coach, moving beyond burnout and money goals into a version of wealth that feels grounded, joyful, and sustainable.

I don’t come across it very often anymore because I choose safe coaches to work with and associate myself with. Coaches who truly understand the value of safety and work with integrity. Coaches who value their clients more than money.
This event showed me the other side of the coaching industry.
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…and doing this work made that ‘holy shit’ moment easier.
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I didn’t really understand either and with the influx of shadow work becoming more popular it can get lost in the noise of social media.
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This is your backstage pass to the stuff most people avoid talking about—the shadows running the show behind your self-sabotage, procrastination, and fear (yep, they’re sneaky like that).
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