The Pressure of Success in Coaching

If you’re a coach or stepping into the world of coaching, you’re here to help people but let’s also acknowledge that we want to make money, we desire stability but also abundance. To live a life of freedom and how do we achieve freedom? Finances help.

There’s no wrong with desiring more money, to be in abundance and having the ability to expand our finances.

When I entered the coaching industry and even now – you’re successful if you make 10k, 20k, 30k+ months and so, the more I see this through social media, coaching containers and watching other coaches expand into this realm – the more this belief comes true.

So, I entered this hustle and every month that I didn’t succeed, for lack of better words, it made me feel like shit.

Maybe I’m not a good coach, maybe I’m successful, maybe I’ll never make it…

What Was Happening Behind the Scenes?

What was happening outside of my business though?

I was burnt out, I wasn’t present with my kids and my relationship was on the backburner.

I started to sit with this idea of success and wealth, what would I actually do if I had this wealth?

What does my successful life actually look like?

After many, many burnouts, tantrums and “what the fuck am I even doing?” moments – I decided to switch gears.

Redefining Wealth and Abundance

What about I live my life in success and wealth that has nothing to do with finances?

The funny thing is, what my success looks like is actually really simple.

My success is having the ability to take my kids to school every day and pick them up – I’m literally known as the Mum that comes in everyday. I didn’t want to miss out on this time to be a mother.

My success looks like having regular date nights, the ability to have in-depth conversations and stability. To continually build intimacy and joy so that one day when our kids leave, we aren’t lost in our relationship.

My success looks like exercising regularly – my hot mum walks, my reformer pilates before clients, enjoying family activities without being puffed out.

My success looks like having 1:1 clients throughout my day, working on my business that works for me and my family, building SAC with Caitlin and working with other coaches in a collaborative space.

My success looks like choosing to take time off work and not burn to the ground, that my business is in a place where it can constantly grow.

My success is that my body and mind feels healthy, that I can create space where my body and mind can be nurtured – through movement, the ability to get a massage, maybe even get my hair done.

Why Redefining Success Helped My Business Grow

See how simple these things are? So I started living like this whilst building my coaching business and it hit me…

I’m allowing other successes to come into my life, allowing my nervous system to build capacity and all through that I realised…the happier I am in my present life the more I can give to my business.

Simple right? But it wasn’t even coming from a logical perspective, my body and my belief system were believing this because my business was growing.

The more I took care of myself and embodied my work – the more opportunities started rising.

What Changed When I Stepped Into My Own Definition of Success

Well, as I started taking care of myself in a way that feels successful to me…

The more confident I got to speak up, share content, and be in other containers with amazing coaches.

The more self-trust I built that if it didn’t work out – that’s okay, I either know for next time or it really wasn’t for me. It really is the “one door closes and twenty more open.”

The more safety I built in myself to hold hard conversations and in those hard conversations, I set more boundaries, felt really supported and felt that I could take on the next challenge.

You see, success is what you make it. Success to me feels EXTREMELY different to how it used to feel and I’m so glad it does.

Your Invitation to Redefine Success as a Coach

Redefining success doesn’t mean giving up those money or financial goals…but where else could you succeed to help nurture your other goals?

Remembering that this is your individual journey, your life which means this is your invitation to start redefining your successes.

Reflection: Questions to Ask Yourself When Redefining Success

If you’re ready to step into your own definition of success as a coach, here are some questions to sit with:

• What does success look like for me outside of financial goals?
• How do I want to feel in my day-to-day life and business?
• Which small, simple moments already make me feel wealthy or abundant?
• Where am I currently chasing someone else’s definition of success instead of my own?
• How could nurturing my relationships, health, or nervous system actually support the growth of my business?
• What would it mean for me to succeed today, in this season of my life?

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